Finally, John Z, has lost his long-time female companion. She and I have communicate much during the time I attempted work with John but After twelve years she has given up on him. Good for her. But still it is sad. This is a note I received from her today along with my response to her.
Danny,
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Mary,
Danny,
Hope you are well. Brookline sure is different, a little culture shock. John is a mess. I am sure you know that.
I try to talk to him every night but I am losing my patience quick. Who wants to talk to a drunk?
I try to talk to him every night but I am losing my patience quick. Who wants to talk to a drunk?
he did take a trip up to see me and his grand daughter thought it would have an impact but wrong!!
If you or your family ever need a place to stay in Boston, please call. Take care
Mary
Mary,
Thanks for staying in touch. Who wants to talk to a drunk? Well, believe it or not, I do! But that's my thing and you sure shouldn't have to. I left him a message last week telling him that he was fired. Had to do it. Fact is that he is not willing to do anything to solve hi s drink problem - and I have several men in the wings who need my time. What I am offering him is quite drastic and difficult to do and where the rubber hits the road . . . .on the Twelve Steps - John would still rather drink than go through the severe P
rogram that will spiritually free him to stop and remove the insane desire from him - and that's all there is to it. He doesn't want the consequences but the consequences haven't gotten bad enough for him to want to stop. If they ever outweigh the benefits maybe he'll want to stop. He wont be able to of course - but that's what our Program is all about - helping people stop who can't. Prerequisite is that he has to want to - and he's no there. May never get there.
rogram that will spiritually free him to stop and remove the insane desire from him - and that's all there is to it. He doesn't want the consequences but the consequences haven't gotten bad enough for him to want to stop. If they ever outweigh the benefits maybe he'll want to stop. He wont be able to of course - but that's what our Program is all about - helping people stop who can't. Prerequisite is that he has to want to - and he's no there. May never get there.He knows how to find me. And I will check in on him periodically too. We DO PROMOTE our services it isn't all about attraction only - so I will be proactive in at least letting him know I am available.
I had a guy (Turtlebones) check into the Craigville motel last Thurs. He came down from somewhere upstate MA. He' gone through all the Steps this last week and is leaving to go back upstate a FREE MAN!!! He was here last night as we were going over the last Step - Step Twelve and Nancy saw him - she didn't recognized him. He's a new man - Its staggering. He's done everything that John is NOT WILLING to do. His story could be Johns story. But Barry wants to stop drinking and John does not. John wants to blink with immunity and that is an insane idea. Don't blame John entirely. I have delved deep into him and I am of the opinion that he is very, very sick man - even sicker than you may be aware. One of the worst I have ever encountered and that's saying a lot, trust me. He is so far beyond human aid that I am convinced he will likely die from alcoholism unless he forgoes all human help - rehabs, hospitals, counselors et al - and seeks the spiritual solution.
I am always here. For you, John, the family etc. Please remember that and let his mom know too. Write or call anytime.
Peace,
Danny S
